Mom Fail #854 and Why Forgiveness Matters

Screen Shot 2014-04-25 at 9.05.17 AMI am a dance mom failure.

Last year, I wrote down the wrong day of my daughter’s dress rehearsal for her dance recital. We missed it completely, and I was mortified.

This year, I had it on the family calendar AND in my phone. I planned when we would begin to get ready, calculated how long it would take to get there, and laid out and made sure all elements of the outfit were together – including various and sundry hair products – so there would be no surprises.

It was perfect… until I got a text at 4:35 asking if we were almost there.

But my calendar said 6:30, and no, we weren’t almost there. My awesome and perfect process had only just begun. It was for 6:30, not 4:30!

I freak out, and think so much for the process. I let them know we can be there in 20 minutes.

But they had to start the rehearsal.
My daughter was supposed to perform in the FIRST act.




The dance studio was wonderful about the whole thing.

The “daughter fall out” however, was horrible.
It was a Massive. Epic. Meltdown.

I felt like crying as hard as she was. I was embarrassed – I felt like “THAT” mom– and hated the whole situation ever happened.

I don’t know about you, but I find it easier to forgive others than I do myself.

If someone else messes up, I can move on and not blink twice. But if I do something wrong it is hours – or days – of questioning, pressure, embarrassment, and inward groaning.

I preach about God’s grace all the time. I want others to experience it because it brings freedom, and relationship, and a deepening of our faith from the ultimate Grace-giver.

I’m working on consistently applying that concept to my own life.

The Hebrew word grace is Chen, from the root Chanan. It means to bend or stoop in kindness to another as a superior to an inferior.

In the Bible, when the word grace is used, it is a picture of God bending down out of his kindness to help meet our need. It is one way our Creator connects with us in a personal, gentle, heart to heart way.

“And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth” John 1:14

Jesus came to earth full of grace.

That grace is God’s kindness in action.
That grace is seen on the cross and in the empty grave.
That grace is where we find our forgiveness.

2 Peter 3:18 says, “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and forever! Amen.”

When we are slow to offer grace to ourselves, insecurity rises to the top of our lives. We become self-focused and not God focused. We lose the value of who we are in Christ because all we see is the mistake.

But God’s forgiveness matters. We need to live in God’s grace, and grab his hand when we are flat on the ground. We must let Him lift us up, dust us off, and help us back on our feet.

So stop beating yourself up and start being aware of God’s grace. He wants to show you His kindness and peace in your life. And then watch as you dance off on your merry way.

5 thoughts on “Mom Fail #854 and Why Forgiveness Matters

  1. “When we are slow to offer grace to ourselves”… Powerful words to a person who struggles with imposed external insecurities and self imposed internal insecurities. Waiting on God or others to say its ok sweetie get up dust yourself off, you will fall again and I will love you just the same seems easier thanaaaa saying to yourself get up girl you failed in this but you are not a failure! He loves us, He love us, warts and all! He’s teaching us to love each other the same. Epic mom fail number###…no I think not but epic mom teachable moment yes!yes! Funny thing about teachable moments they last a lifetime and never seem to spoil.

    • I think it’s easy to love God. It’s not usually hard to love others. But we can be brought down if we fail to love ourselves and remember we are God’s children. Thanks for commenting Barb!

  2. A friend once told me that forgiveness is allowing a person to re-write a story that has already been written . . . to allow a person to erase the harm, and write in favor . . . to graciously allow them to change the one thing they could never change–the past. It is a wife allowing a husband to erase the affair, a friend allowing a friend to erase the words spoken in haste, and a person allowing themselves to erase the thing no one else knows. It is the most extravagant gift anyone can give to another (or themselves) . . .

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