My mom is awesome. She is a wise, Godly woman, and has a scripture reference for every situation. She understood me even in the years when I didn’t understand myself.
She has always let me be me. I’m glad mom didn’t try to fit me into this misunderstood stereotype…
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 1 Peter 3:3-4
This verse has been shoved down Godly women’s throats for ages. Don’t get me wrong, I totally agree with scripture. But well-meaning people who don’t know Greek, or the culture the Bible was written in, have twisted it into something it wasn’t intended to be.
How many times has it been misquoted, teaching Godly women must be quiet, mild, shy, and serve with a smile.
What if our gifts don’t lie in those areas?
I am loud.
I am annoyingly bubbly.
I am a tell-it-like-it-is speaker.
And God made me this way.
For me to sit back and be quiet, just because I am a woman, would be wasting the gifts and abilities God has given me.
The Greek word for gentle used here is praus. It comes from a root that is difficult to translate, because it means more than meek and is a hair off of what we know as gentle.
It is a mighty gentleness that is confident and powerful because God is in it and behind it. It is power without harshness.
So what does it mean to have a quiet spirit?
First, back to my mom. My mom knew – from birth – quietness is not a virtue of mine. I talked in school. I talked with my mouth full. I even talked in church so much once my dad had to come sit in between a friend and I in the middle of a sermon on a Sunday morning.
He walked down in his choir robe from the choir loft.
That was not a fun day.
But my mom knew I loved God. And has always been behind me. She would never want me to be quiet.
The Greek for “quiet” is hesuchios. It is a picture of stillness or tranquility. It describes a quiet calmness in the depths of a person’s soul.
That is a calmness of spirit, not of mouth.
A calmness of spirit comes from a confidence knowing God is in control because you are choosing to let Him be Lord of your life.
My mom taught me to let God be God in my life.
My mom taught me to attempt to be a person of mighty gentleness.
My mom taught me to have a tranquil spirit by understanding that God is a God of love, peace, forgiveness, and mercy.
My mom taught me to be the person God created me to be, and to not try and fit inside a societal box of perfection or being what people thought I should be.
And thankfully, my mom taught me to never, EVER, shut up when it comes to telling people about Jesus. She wants me to shout it from the rooftops about God’s love. And she taught me that by living it out her self.