When Your Father Isn’t Godly

Screen Shot 2014-06-15 at 11.33.25 AMFathers Day is hard for a lot of people. You might not have a Father in your life, or if he is around, you may wish he wasn’t. This makes it especially hard when you hear God referred to as Father.

It’s a stretch, because why would you want another male influence in your life when you don’t like the one you have now?

But God is our Father. He created us. He loves us.

In the Bible when Jesus prayed in the garden of Gethsemane he said “Abba!”. He’s not calling to some Father who didn’t really have time for him, or left him on the cross to hang alone. (To see what I’m talking about, see my blog here… PLEASE! It’s the most known-by-every-biblical-scholar-but-not-taught-in-churches thing out there. Read it, and shout it from the rooftops!).

Abba is the term for “daddy”. He was crying out to a close Father of love to help him walk through the cross. We are going to look at three ways we see God in that one simple cry of Abba.

1. God will not hurt you.

Psalm 10:14 says, But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted; you consider their grief and take it in hand. The victims commit themselves to you; you are the helper of the fatherless.

Some men are stuck in a pattern of abuse, be it verbal, physical, emotional, or sexual. They have passed on their dysfunction to your family. You have been hurt.


God grieves with you in your pain. Free Will is great, but it allows people to not only make bad choices, but other people who have nothing to do with those choices can become affected by someone else’s baggage or bad judgment.

Don’t blame God for what others have done to you. Don’t blame God for your dad leaving you. God did not cause those things.

Sin did.

God is a God of love, and he desires for us to live a life as free from sin as possible. He doesn’t expect us to be perfect, but He does desire for us to be obedient. Part of that obedience is realizing God is not at fault when others hurt you.

2. God will not leave you.

Deuteronomy 31:6 says, Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.”

God did not leave Jesus on the cross (again… see this blog!!!) and He won’t leave you. No matter how bad things are, He is there. He weeps with you, mourns for you, and loves you through every circumstance.

If your father left you, God is the ultimate example of what an earthly father should be. God is caring. He is available. He is love. God is proud when you do the right thing, and will allow consequences for your sin when you choose wrongly, hoping those consequences will bring you back to Him.

Knowing that God will never leave me or forsake me has helped me through many times of anger or doubt. I actually have an incredibly Godly Father who helped model to me who what God as Father means, but many do not, and this topic causes great confusion for them.

3. God is Present.

Zephaniah 3:17 says, The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”

Our God is FOR you. He is WITH you. And if you have asked Jesus into your heart, His Holy Spirit lives inside of you.

Some fathers are in the home, but not present. They don’t go to games. They don’t say I love you. They miss birthdays. They may not even acknowledge your presence.

But God is always over you, watching.
Watching, and rooting for you.

God wants a personal relationship with you. After all, we can pray directly to the God of the universe!

Stop for a second and let that sink in… YOU can have an intimate relationship with the

So, if you are having a tough time this Fathers Day, look to God the Father to celebrate. He wants to protect you from sin. His desire is to be around you, and to be intimately involved in your life. He loves you, and sent His son to die for your sins so you can be with Him forever. And THAT is a Father to celebrate.

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